Hatred and its consequences

Hatred and its consequences

The word hatred is often verbalized by various individuals. Today, hatred is more prevalent in our country than ever before, especially regarding our present, diverse political establishments.

One definition of hatred is “to feel a strong emotional dislike toward something or someone. Haters see the object of their hatred as bad, immoral, dangerous, or all of this together. Also, haters usually intend and desire to hurt, destroy, or even make one suffer.”

Other definitions: “Hatred is related to some psychological concepts. It may be motivated by feelings of envy, or jealousy. Hatred can also be an individual matter. You can hate someone for the experiences you’ve had with him/her, e. g., the friend who betrayed you.”

And more: “Humans are subject to a high risk of errors in our thinking (cognitive distortions) that can have a major impact on how the individual interprets what happens. For example, people with a tendency to be angry tend to interpret what happens with other people in an egocentric way (Why does this have to happen to me?) and they often exaggerate the frequency of adverse events (She never shows me any respect).” Egoism is also quite rampant these days!

Also: “Haters most often form peer groups. They are emotionally contagious; they share behaviors and ideals that strengthen the bonds between them. The gang provides an organized context for their time, with specific activities where everyone participates and that make the person feel responsible and valued. That group is always the same: impervious to outside influences. They only go to certain places, only read certain information, participate in the same activities, have fun and even find a partner within the members of that group. That way there is no possible external contamination. In this context, some violent actions such as social vandalism generate great emotional excitement, and serve to obtain approval and social recognition of the group. There are few adverse consequences because such vandalism often goes unpunished. It is no wonder that in this context, group members show more and more arrogance.”

Do these preceding descriptions remind you of any particular political party, and do the words “community organizer” sound familiar?

Other definitions: “Verbal aggression is a tactic which is often used by haters, especially in our political environment. It is also noted that verbal aggression can be very subtle and can involve much irony.” The following story is a great example: “It is said that Winston Churchill was once arguing in the British parliament with an opposition MP (Member of Parliament). At one moment, the MP got up from her seat and chided Churchill, saying: “Mr. Churchill, if I were your wife, I would make you a cup of poisoned tea.” To which Churchill answered, “Madam, if I were your husband, I would drink it!”

In closing, the question to ask ourselves is, “How can a person who feels intense hatred be happy, care for others, and/or live peacefully within himself/herself?” Pray for America! Amen.

Pauline Demers
Woonsocket